You might be wondering why in the world is a Fitness Expert writing about letting go of the past and not on the latest fitness trend or tip. The reason is that psychology and getting to the heart of emotions is such a huge part of overall exercise success. If you have weight to lose or are struggling to motivate, until you address the heart of the issue and emotions it is unlikely that you will achieve the greatness you are seeking. Everything is intertwined.
Everyone has baggage. I’m not talking about the kind we take on holiday, I am talking about the sort of baggage we carry with us throughout our life journey. Our experiences, our memories, our failures and upsets. There is not one person on the planet who doesn’t have something they feel shame for or regret at some point in their lives, but living with our baggage can literally weigh us down.
We can find it hard to move on with our lives and really enjoy what life has to offer. For some it can be a painful separation from a loved one, they may find it hard to get over the loss and meet someone new. It may be that you consistently make the same mistakes in life, you may not realize it, but many of us self sabotage our relationships and friendships because we continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.
There are ways, however, that you can combat this self-destructive living pattern. You can opt to ‘wipe your slate clean’. This can be tricky and almost overwhelming at times but if you seriously want to move forward and live your life to the fullest then this is what you can do.
1. Start each day as a new one. Wake up to the knowledge that every new day is an offer of a new experience. What has happened is in the past and while it can shape the way we are now it doesn’t have to shape the way we will be for the rest of our lives.
2. Forget trying to be in control of the uncontrollable. Those around you are their own persons. They have their own minds, thoughts and feelings. They have their own agenda and principles. Once you realize that you cannot control these things and how they feel or react to you, you will begin to feel a freedom from unnecessary responsibility.
At the same time you will realize that your reactions to events and others actions are your own. They have not been forced by anyone else, you will stop blaming others and the world for the negative feelings you harbor. You will feel enlightened and free.
3. Release Pain and suffering. We all feel pain, when someone dies, leaves us or we loose a job. Whatever the reason we all will experience it. What we don’t need to experience is the suffering which many people face in these situations.
It may sound harsh but, picking yourself up and dusting of the proverbial dirt can have a huge and positive effect on us. Yes we may want to grieve for a time and I’m not suggesting that you can’t or shouldn’t but remember your life still goes on and the world still turns. You must make the positive decision to carry on.
4. Forgive. This is probable one of the most important factors in self sabotage. So many people remain embittered and resentful, full of hatred and anger because they cannot forgive the wrong done to them. If you can find it within yourself to forgive the person for whatever they have done to hurt you, you will be free from the pain and suffering of that event.
This is where so many divorcees fall down. They may feel hurt and pain at the time of a separation or divorce but instead of forgiving each other their failures, they choose to dwell on it. It makes the process long, protracted and painful for all involved not just themselves. Once you learn to forgive you will feel better and happier in life and love.
If you can take these simple steps each day at a time then with every experience you face, you will live a better, fuller and simpler life.