It starts with why...

Updated: Nov 19, 2019

By Trainer Joy



Have you ever wanted something so badly that you were willing to do whatever it took (excluding illegal activity) to get it? Your why was so compelling that the how was not as important.

I find that it is often easier to start with how instead of why. Discovering why means I have to stop and think and dream, then create a plan. I am a doer. I would rather just jump in and do the thing.

Simon Sinek, in his book It Starts with Why, says, "Instead of asking, “WHAT do I need to do?” the questions must be asked, “WHY do I want to change WHAT I'm am doing in the first place." Only then should you ask, "WHAT can I do to bring it to life?" Sustainable weight management begins with discovering your why.

Do you need to make a change? Are you frustrated with your weight or health? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?

Visualize yourself in five years. If you keep doing what you are doing what will your life be like? Five years will come and go regardless of what you decide to do. It's up to you. Is change hard? Yes, but you have done hard things before. Hard is not bad. You can do them again. Having a clear why can give you motivation when the how is super hard. In 2012, I was thinking about going back to school to finish my degree. My dad wisely told me, "The years will pass regardless of whether or not you go to school." I had a choice. I could suck it up and achieve my goal, or let the time pass with no degree. It was not easy. There were a lot of frustration, tears, and all-nighters. Do I regret the hard work? Not for one second.

For those of you reading this who don't have weight or health issues but are always striving for physical perfection, I ask you the same question. Why? Why are you doing what you are doing? What are you trying to achieve? Are you doing it for your health or for the approval of others? Sometimes we need to step back and look at our true motives. I have been there.

I have been obsessed with trying to look my best to gain the approval from others. When you have been hurt as a kid because of your weight, those hurts are branded on your heart.

You do whatever is necessary not to feel that pain again.

It is still something I have to be mindful about, but it no longer controls me. My worth is not wrapped up in my appearance, or what others think of me. I enjoy health and fitness, because I feel better when I am healthy, and it allows me to be the best version of myself for those around me. That is my why.

There is no pill, shake, magic potion, wrap, device, or diet that will give you long-term success. You are the secret to your success. Knowing your why can help you achieve it. You can do it!!